Most men make the error of thinking that one day it will be done. They think, “If I can work enough, then one day I could rest.”
Or,”One day my woman will understand something and then she will stop complaining.” Or, “I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life” The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way. They won’t. It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.
– David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
How true is this brothers?
Isn’t this the fundamental truth in every man’s life?
Do we not always assume that all things will eventually work themselves out once we give it enough time and attention…
As men we always tend to assume that everything will work itself out because we are entitled to it being worked out.
Most men especially in the 21st Century assume that life is fair and that everyone deserves equal chances.
This is modern day fantasy however.
Throughout history life has proven itself to not be fair towards anyone specific at all.
Good people and bad people both suffer the same fates.
Nature has no favorites whatsoever, even though it might seem that way sometimes.
Some men tend to be more favored by the gods than others but this is just an illusion.
Those that seem to be in favor are the ones that are struggling the hardest in their daily lives.
They are the ones that see reality for what it is, they know hard work each and every single moment is the way to thrive and survive.
They carry on all the time while making love with the present moment.
Each moment is valuable to these men.
These men are only a minority
A majority of men doesn’t realize the power of the present moment at all.
They do not understand that each moment of the day requires hard work and conscious attention.
They devalue the present moment by being result orientated towards the future.
Instead of giving full attention towards what is in front of them, they dream away towards the glorious future where no more work has to be done.
The glorious future where our relationships are completely fulfilled and seeded with happiness. No more nagging wife and no more financial troubles.
The glorious future when we’re retired and are able to watch TV and drink beer all day.
But that’s all it is.
A glorious future or should I say, a glorious fantasy.
One that might or might not happen at all.
That is why most men instead of fighting with their woman, rather give her everything she wants in the hope that one day she’ll be happy.
But your woman, girlfriend or wife will never be happy.
Happiness is not a destination far in the future but a lingering side effect of a great journey.
Happiness is right now.
It is a side effect of a life well-lived each and every single moment.
So if your woman isn’t satisfied with you right now, then let me tell you something…
She never will be.
If you aren’t satisfied with your job right now, then let me tell you another thing…
You never will be.
Time is not a linear process but a cyclical wheel that turns in the same direction all the time.
Past, Present and Future are all contained within the exact same dimension of Space-Time.
If the NOW isn’t complete then the LATER will be incomplete as well.
All GREAT MEN of the past understood this very well.
All great inventions, foundations and structures that they left behind for us where pure selfless creations.
They knew that they wouldn’t pluck the fruits of their labor directly but that their descendants would reap the benefits of their work in the future.
And yet still they tussled, played and worked hard in their present moment because they understood the Nature of Life.
Life is not fair and life does not promise good endings by default.
The Way of the Superior Masculine Man
When he walks he is free.
Wherever he goes, he is there completely.
He doesn’t linger on the past for too long, only to apply learned lessons from previous mistakes.
Neither does he hope for a better future, but he does everything in his power right now to secure it anyways.
He wants a better future but he won’t sacrifice his happiness right now in order to do it.
The Superior Masculine Man is not a spineless wimp like the remaining 98% of men.
He is a man of action and not a man of words.
He is proactive instead of reactive.
He doesn’t respond to negativity but dispels it through his inner light.
The Superior Masculine Man is a God amongst men.
He is different and does not carry the same ambitions as them.
The Superior Masculine Man does not care about everything being always fine and alright.
He doesn’t value a woman that is always happy and satisfied, rather he wants one that gives him the necessary feedback when necessary.
He loves to tussle, play, fight and enjoy with his present difficulties.
He seeks opportunities where regular men see only pain and failure.
Whenever everyone says that this is the right way to do things then the Superior Masculine Man does the exact opposite.
He knows that the way of the masses is the way of error. He knows that the masses of men are mere mindless sheep.
While the common man tries to understand women, the Superior Masculine Man tries to understand himself.
He knows that the keys to his own well-being are within his own hand and therefore he is self-reliant and self-sufficient.
He is not in need of a woman and yet he is the only Man that truly understands women.
He does not care about competition either, he doesn’t consider anyone to be his opponent.
According to him life isn’t about being than others but being better than your previous self.
Therefore he is always focused on the now.
The Superior Masculine Man is always hustling in the present moment.